​Navigating These Holidays When Your Heart Ain't Right: It's Okay, For Real.

​Honey, let's be honest. The holidays? They're supposed to be all sparkle, joy, and "fa-la-la-la-la." But if you're like me, sometimes they just hit different. Sometimes, they hit hard. They can be a loud reminder of who's missing, what's changed, and the ache in your soul. And if that's where you're at right now, let me tell you straight: it is absolutely, 100% okay not to be okay. For real.

​Grief, chile, that thing is a whole journey. It's heavy, it comes at you in waves you never see coming, and it sure as heck don't care about your calendar or anybody's timeline. Ain't no "right" way to do it, and ain't nobody gonna tell you when your pain should just magically disappear.

​For me? These holidays have been a lot. My mama's been gone since 2016, and even after all these years, eight of 'em, her absence still feels like a punch to the gut. Then, in just the last two years, I said goodbye to the last of my grandparents, and honestly, my family just kinda… shifted. Fell apart in ways I'm still figuring out. All that weight, all that change, especially when the world is screaming "be merry!"? It can feel like you're carrying bricks.

​So this year, just like the last couple, my husband, the babies, and I are keeping it cute, quiet, and cozy right here at home. We're making our own traditions, vibing on what brings us peace and comfort. And you know what? It's exactly what my spirit needs. No apologies.

​So, if you're out here trying to navigate this holiday season with a heavy heart, here are a few things to remember, from one sister to another:

​You Ain't Gotta Go to Every Daggone Thing! Listen, boo. You are not obligated to RSVP "yes" to every single gathering, potluck, or festive shindig. If the thought of it makes your stomach turn, or you already know it's gonna be too much, too painful? Give yourself permission to hit that "decline" button or just politely say no.

Your peace? Your mental and emotional health? That's the priority. Don't let nobody make you feel bad for protecting your energy 🧘🏿‍♀️

Lemme know how you navigate the holiday season in the comments

Sendin love and peace ✌🏿

Your favorite Craftin Ass Blk Grl ✨️🫶🏿